Six Weeks to Romance

Six Weeks to Romance

Monday, 19 April 2010 10:07

Since it takes 30 days to change an old habit, or build a new one, six weeks is plenty of time to turn your dating life around if you want to.  How do you know if you need to start a six-week makeover?  Answer the following questions:

* Are you happy with your dating life?
* Are you settling for someone now but don’t think he or she is the one?
* Would you really like to find your soul mate but you don’t know how?
* Do you believe the myth that there’s just “no one out there”?

If you answered yes to any of the above, consider the “six-weeks-to-romance” plan.

Week One: Get some energy

It’s hard to create a social life when you feel flat about dating.  You know you need to get out there and try to meet people but it doesn’t work when you don’t have any energy.  Here are two tried and proven ways to turn that around: exercising and de-cluttering --

* Start your exercise program today.  Even if you only walk for five minutes, you have to get moving.  After a few days, or weeks, extend it to ten minutes.  Try it once in the morning and again in the evening.  Join a class, find a buddy to join you, take a walk in your neighborhood, or go to the Y—just start now.

* Clean up your house, car, office, garage, and any other place where you spend time.  Take one drawer or counter at a time.  This will give you a big power surge.

People with energy are irresistible.

Week Two: Take stock

Make a list of everything you have going for you.  Start with the areas of friends and family, successes, hobbies, skills, and assets.  From this list you will quickly begin to see what parts of your life need some shoring up.  Do you need a diet, career plan, or savings program?  What steps can you take today to start building the safety nets you need?

Do an honest assessment of your skills, talents, experiences, and education.  What can you do to leverage what you have into a better position?  When you take stock and determine what you can do with your life skills, and what more you need to learn, you will have a sturdier confidence.

Confidence is attractive.

Week Three: Get some help

No one is ever successful all alone.  You need friends, mentors, teachers, advisers, and parent-figures.  Your job is to go and find these people.  You need them in your life to help you navigate your way, provide introductions, and cheer you on.  If you aren’t dating and you don’t know why, this is the time to work on your issues… from garbage to boundaries.  Don’t let anything stand in your way when the help is available to remove the obstacles.

Self-reliant people are the people everyone wants to be around.

Week Four: Develop a Dating Plan

There are three major venues for meeting someone: introductions through friends or acquaintances, Internet Dating sites, and places or events that represent one of your deep interests.  The point is, you have to DO something; you have to take the necessary steps for these venues to work for you.  Take an action every day.  Call people and tell them you want to start dating; sign up for a paid dating site; get out and participate in your favorite hobby.  This is how you meet people.

Proactive people are magnetic people.

Week Five:  Knock yourself out

Get invested in your dating adventure --

* Start with a makeover—nothing radical—but spiff up your wardrobe, haircut, and shoes.

* Practice smiling at people and making eye contact.  Friendliness is necessary; attitude is everything!  Reach out to people with kindness.

* Get in shape for the dating Olympics by going to the gym and working out like you’re going for the gold—because you are.

People who take action get what they want.

Week Six:  Relax

Many a date has been lost because one of the two people was tense, nervous, shy…or just plain desperate.  If you are working on the above with earnestness, it’s time to cut yourself a break.  Get a massage, treat yourself to a facial, listen to a relaxation CD, practice yoga, pray, sing, meditate, or dance. Find your quiet zone. You want to be so kind and loving to yourself, you can mingle your way through social settings without interpreting other people’s behavior as rejecting.  Either the interaction with someone works for you or it doesn’t.  Move on and keep trying , because right around the corner—dates await!

Relaxed people are soothing to the soul.

Enjoy your six-week plan to romance.  This is how you become…a SAVVY dater.