How Did Sallie Meet Harry?

Monday, 08 September 2008 00:00

Would you like to know how to meet someone? Did you ever wonder how a Sallie meets her Harry? Do you want your own Sallie and Harry relationship?

This is how one of my clients recently met her Harry. She had to learn some of the following:

Smile and make eye contact

How can you meet someone if you don't look at them? Because my client was shy, if anyone looked at her, she looked away. People mistakenly thought she didn't like them. She had to consciously work at looking at people, holding their gaze, smiling, and saying hello. This took some practice.

Believe that you can find someone

How can you meet someone if you don't believe it is possible? One of the first things my client said to me when she came for coaching was that men didn't like her. She had come to the false conclusion that she was unattractive and unlovable. She was lacking confidence in her appearance, her conversation, and her self esteem. She sent an unspoken message that said, "I'm not worth much." After work on her attitude and appearance, this Sallie began to speak up and let people know who she was.

Get out of the house

How can you meet someone if you don't get out of the house? If you want to find someone, and you want someone to find you, you have to show up. And when you get there, you have to take charge of choosing whom you want to meet. To insure that you will actually get out of the house, make plans with a friend and mark it on your calendar. You need to go somewhere at least twice a week. Look in your local paper for events to attend. Take a class, join a club, volunteer your services, and participate in sports. Make a special effort to attend reunions, neighborhood parties, funerals, weddings, museum gatherings, dinner parties, and lectures. And when you get there, don't just stand there waiting to be approached. Look around the room, see if there is someone interesting you would like to talk to, get near them, and ask them a question. You will know in a few minutes if you want to continue the conversation.

Tell people you want to meet someone

One of the most effective ways to accomplish anything in life is to network. Whether you are looking for a job, a plumber, or a florist...you ask other people who they know or where you should go. However, many people do not want to network to find someone. They feel embarrassed to ask people if they know someone who is single. Shift your attitude that this is beneath you and start thinking that this is a safe, effective, and smart way to increase your chances of meeting your Harry (or Sallie).

These are some of the key ways that Sallie met her Harry. If you want to do the same, think about the above. You deserve to find the love that you seek.