Latest News

Thriving After Divorce announced as winner in the Self Help: Relationship category of the “Best Books 2010” Awards, sponsored by USA Book News

USA News Best Book Awards 2010 emblem

Thriving After Divorce awarded second place in 2010 self-help books by Premier Book Awards!

Living Now Awards gives Thriving After Divorce a bronze metal in the category Relationships/Marriage.

Living Now Book Awards emblem

 

When People get Jealous

Attention: open in a new window. PDFPrintE-mail

Monday, 06 June 2011 13:51

Recently, I was sent a list of questions from a magazine that was presenting an article on the topic of jealousy.  Answering those questions got me thinking about the toll jealousy can take on our hearts and psyches.  It's a terrible emotion to experience and one we often think we have no control over.  We can become consumed in thinking someone is taking something from us... or that others got something we wanted and they are not as deserving as we are.

Jealousy can show up in the strangest of places, and you have to be on your guard to not let it run your day...or your life.  One of the most common places where jealousy can erupt ...is in relationships.

Read more: When People get Jealous

 

Notes from the Beach

Attention: open in a new window. PDFPrintE-mail

Friday, 03 June 2011 14:51

You know how focus, determination, and a strong work ethic works for you—until it doesn’t?  Sometimes, my best intentions can turn a corner…and there I am…cranky, head achey, and looking at life upside-down.  All of that was going on a few weeks ago when the Love of My Life said… “Let’s run away to the beach!”  We did.

Read more: Notes from the Beach

 

How Do You Get the One You Want?

Attention: open in a new window. PDFPrintE-mail

Thursday, 26 May 2011 12:56

As a coach, lots of people ask me: how can I find the "right one"?  How can I meet the love of my life?  How can I meet the person of my dreams?

Do you know how to get the one that you want?  Here are some steps that will take you to the person who is looking for you:

Read more: How Do You Get the One You Want?

   

Do you Want a Love that is Real?

Attention: open in a new window. PDFPrintE-mail

Monday, 23 May 2011 13:25

When it comes to falling in love, if the object of your affection looks good, sounds reasonable, and seems to feel the same way you do, you may not get it that he or she is not what you think they are.  Even your friends and family could be fooled.  You may hear people say, “You two are just the perfect couple.  You are so lucky to have found each other!”

What’s going on here?  People will often give you the opinion you want to hear.  (Or the opinion they would like to hear if they were in a relationship.)  So you have to be aware of the red flags when you meet someone.  Especially if your vision is blinded by a rush of chemicals.  Combine that chemistry with hope, loneliness, and longing… and you might not be able to see if it’s real or not.

What are the defining characteristics when it’s real?  And what are the warning signs that you need to pay attention to?  Here’s the deal: fake love fades away or evaporates quickly when the chemistry wears off.  But love endures, showing up in the actions and deeds of the two people.  If you’re in a relationship, pay attention to:

Read more: Do you Want a Love that is Real?

 

How Do You Find Love?

Attention: open in a new window. PDFPrintE-mail

Thursday, 19 May 2011 18:13

In Yvonne Oswald's book, "Every Word Has Power," she makes a strong case for the fact that you can only love someone else as much as you love yourself.  The more you are connected with yourself, the better you can connect with others.

I have written often of the high energy emotions of excitement, enthusiasm, joy, and happiness, and how when you radiate this kind of electricity, you not only shine...you attract!  But what can you do if you're not having these feelings?  Think about the following:

Read more: How Do You Find Love?

   

Page 7 of 35

Get Tonja's blog delivered directly to your email inbox.

Email Address:

Powered by Feed My Inbox



Subscribe by RSS

feed-image Feed Entries