When the Older Woman... Dates the Younger Man
Monday, 28 February 2011 00:00
Not too long ago, I was asked to be part of a panel of experts to discuss live, on the radio, “Women as Cougars.” The group consisted of college professors, authors, ministers, counselors, and me—the dating and relationship coach.I did my best to not embarrass my friends, family, and readers, and to keep the edge out of my voice, but obviously, with that “Cougar” title, I was struggling with some of the implied assumptions. For starters, why exactly is it that people automatically assume a younger man is DATING DOWN when he dates an older woman? One panelist offered, “Because, a man has to propagate his genetics, and he has less of a chance of doing that with an older woman.”
Can a Wealthy Woman Find True Love?
Monday, 21 February 2011 00:00
Rich single women don’t get a lot of compassion from the rest of the world for their feelings or problems. There is an unspoken assumption that if you have money, you can buy anything… including love. Wealthy women may get a lot of pandering, needy, or superficial people trying to manipulate favors out of them. But finding peers who are capable of understanding their personal day-to-day struggles is a challenge. And finding someone to love can be even trickier.
How is that relevant to the rest of us? Because everyone has complications or dilemmas to consider when they are looking for that special partner. Very often, people think that if they had all the money in the world, their problems would disappear. Obviously, many of their troubles would lessen, but when it comes to meeting a mate, if you were very wealthy…a new set of obstacles would emerge. Finding your soul mate is daunting—for everyone.
How To Keep A Valentine
Monday, 14 February 2011 00:00
Did you fall in love when you were young… but wound up losing your Valentine? When most people are young and dating, they can make some unfortunate choices in behavior that will affect their whole lives. They may have the mutual emotions to think they are in love, but often not the maturity to sustain a relationship. If two people are truly, madly in love with each other, that kind of electric spark needs a large measure of wisdom to handle the inherent fragility of a deep emotional attachment.
What kinds of things could go wrong when two people meet who have all the right chemistry, attraction, and career assets going for them? Everything. Unless you have several strong factors developed, two un-evolved individuals can self-destruct as a couple just as fast as you can light a match.
Does Being Funny Make You Attractive?
Monday, 07 February 2011 00:00
What is the one quality that most people put on their top ten list of requirements for a date or a mate? Humor! Everyone wants to be with someone who is funny. But what do you do if you’re NOT funny? What if you’ve never been comfortable cracking jokes or making witty comments or telling amusing stories?I once had a client who was a serious, solemn person. Her life was limited to working in a lab doing medical research and spending free time with her sister’s family. (And she wondered why she couldn’t meet anyone.) Eventually, she found time to log onto dating websites. She asked me once to read her response to a potential date. The guy was funny—but her email back to him was not—though she didn’t know that. She was trying her best to rise to his level of playfulness, but instead, she just didn’t quite get it—how to be amusing. She was going to lose the date before it happened.
My suggestion to her—and to anyone in this situation who is not comfortable exchanging punch lines—was to not even go there. Let the other person know how much they make you laugh. Playing the “straight man” can work for you better. The clever, witty person will feel terrific that you appreciate their take on life…and it gives you time to think about developing your own humor muscles.
Body Language Mistakes…You Don’t Want To Make
Monday, 31 January 2011 00:00
If you want to meet someone special, it would be wise to pay attention to the unconscious messages you’re projecting. In a sense, you telegraph to others what you’re thinking or feeling through your physical gestures.Before you go out to a social situation, before you see your blind date, or before you go anywhere you might meet someone, do an internal inventory of your thoughts. If you are angry or bitter about anything, come to a resolution: “I will put that aside for today, work it out in an appropriate time and setting, and focus on what makes me feel good.” Following that, remember what you are proud of, the wins you’ve celebrated, and the people who love you. Insecure, defensive people are hard to approach, so you don’t want your silent messages to be: “Stay away!”
After your attitude adjustment, here are some body language signals that you want to be aware of. You could send a potential date or mate away before they have a chance to get to talk to you by doing any of the following:
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