Is the Divorce Rate Falling?
Monday, 25 April 2011 00:00
In my book, “Thriving After Divorce,” I tell a story, once told to me, of a man and woman in their nineties who went before a judge at the local courthouse to get their final divorce decree. The judge, peering over the bench, couldn’t believe it when he saw them. Groping for words, he paused, scratched his head and said, “Tell me… why would two people your age, who have been together for as long as you have, get a divorce?” “Well…” the man said, “we had to wait for all the kids to die. We didn’t wanna upset ‘em.”Divorce, at any age, is a bracing decision. There are some recent statistics out, however, that point to a shift in our society. The University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School published a longitudinal research study in 2010 that states the divorce rate is falling in certain parts of the population: college graduates who marry when they are over the age of 26.
Of the college-educated couples in the 1980s that were over 26 when they married, 82% of them are still together. For those who waited until they were over 35 to marry, the divorce rate drops significantly further.
Of those college grads that married before they were 26, only 65% of them are still wed.
But the more disheartening part to this study, however, found that the less educated, lower income couples have a rising divorce rate. Between the two extremes of the college-educated vs. non-college-educated groups, the national divorce rate then balances out to remain …at almost 50%.
What exactly has brought this shift in this part of our society?
How to Break Up with Class
Monday, 11 April 2011 00:00
Have you ever gone through a breakup? Do you wish you had handled things differently? Whether you were the person leaving the relationship, or the one being left, rarely does anyone feel they were being their best self when the split happened. It can get messy, feelings can get hurt, and most people put the breakup crisis on the memory shelf along with “some of the worst experiences that have ever happened to me.”It is possible that at this time in history, with more information and deeper awareness than ever before, people have begun to realize their potential for having better relationships. Along with this insight comes the opportunity of being able to LEAVE someone… with more wisdom, care and dignity than in the past. What is the best way to handle saying goodbye? Start with:
Why Would Jesse Cheat On Sandra?
Monday, 04 April 2011 00:00
Tabloid relationships are intriguing studies of how people who have absolutely every material possession they could want…are no happier than the rest of the population. And when they break up, because their actions and lives are so public, we have a chance to watch and surmise what went wrong. Recently, I received this note from a reader:“What would make Jesse James leave a class act like Sandra Bullock for Kat Von D, or Prince Charles leave Diana for Camilla? I see this all the time. What’s going on here? I’m writing to you because some of us with inquiring minds really want to know. I purposefully left out Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt. I can’t put my finger on it but I think she has some issues. I’m also on the fence about Halle. But you get the idea. I would think that if a woman was loving, loyal, supportive, honest, intelligent, and sexy, then the man would be ecstatic. Is this not the case?”
See Tonja speak at the Westend Spa, Greenville, SC
Wednesday, 02 March 2011 16:22
Join me at the Westend Spa, Greenville, SC this Thursday night 6:30-8:30pm. We'll be talking about HOW TO MAKE A FRESH START. Call 864-242-8877 to make a reservation.How To Keep A Valentine
Monday, 14 February 2011 00:00
Did you fall in love when you were young… but wound up losing your Valentine? When most people are young and dating, they can make some unfortunate choices in behavior that will affect their whole lives. They may have the mutual emotions to think they are in love, but often not the maturity to sustain a relationship. If two people are truly, madly in love with each other, that kind of electric spark needs a large measure of wisdom to handle the inherent fragility of a deep emotional attachment.
What kinds of things could go wrong when two people meet who have all the right chemistry, attraction, and career assets going for them? Everything. Unless you have several strong factors developed, two un-evolved individuals can self-destruct as a couple just as fast as you can light a match.
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