Divorced, Over Forty... And Learning to Date
Monday, 23 August 2010 00:00
Hi Tonja,
I have been divorced for six years. My ex had an affair and left. He lives in a large city and I am in a small town four hours away. We have two kids, both grown. At the time of our divorce, the kids stayed with me, I put them through college, bought a house, got my career on track as a nurse, and the ex just resumed his life without us.
My question is this: When does the pain of divorce go away, if ever? He is now in a serious relationship with someone else. It seems to me that I am the one struggling in life here, where he isn't. My kids mean everything to me and they don't seem to as much for him.
I see him when he comes to visit the kids, and although I don't see us ever getting together again, I can't visualize me being married to anyone else. Does that make sense? At times I still feel married, but with a spouse out of town a lot. I have dated a bit but nothing serious. Why is it so hard for women to remarry with kids when men go so easily into another relationship?
Thank you for your time. J
Single and Over Forty
Monday, 16 August 2010 00:00
Do you know what it takes to find a great relationship when you are an older, experienced, somewhat weathered grownup …and it looks like dating is just for the “young”? Being single and over forty presents its own set of terms and demands. You need the tools, skills, techniques, and courage to press through the resistance to getting out and meeting people.
Midlife Daters
Monday, 11 January 2010 00:00
“If you are single at 20, you are just single. If you are single at 40, you have a story to tell.” Dr. Philip Belove, author and psychotherapist
There has never been a time like this one in American history where so many people are single at midlife. According to Dr. Belove, midlife is considered to be the ages between 40 and 60, and if you are single, you are probably not having just a midlife crisis, but a developmental crisis.
Part of the crisis at midlife is having a past of tangled history. The AARP did a study in October, 2003, of 3500 single midlife adults. The number one complaint by 70 per cent of the men and 35 per cent of the women was finding someone to date who was not burdened by “baggage.” Baggage seems to be the biggest issue for individuals in this age range.
Relationships and Love After Forty
Monday, 05 May 2008 00:00
Are you over forty, single, and think a love relationship has passed you by? Do you think you will never find love because you are "older"? The truth is, with the right attitude, being over forty can work to your advantage. In all probability, you have learned something from your past relationships. You are at a stage where you can look beyond the surface presentation of someone and deeper into their character.
What are the qualities that you can polish, if you are over forty, that will make you very attractive? Take a look at the following:
