Coaching Services

Individual coaching is usually done by phone, at regularly scheduled times of the week. Since it is one-on-one, it allows for greater focus on your goals.

A coach is like having an experienced mentor who can help you find your way when you get lost. We can all get stuck in our life, and when we do, a coach is someone who offers information and resources that will help embrace new perspectives. A coach asks insightful questions that lead you to the answers needed to design the life you want, and find the person you want to meet.  You will set the agenda, working with your coach to co-create a plan of action for your current challenges.

Along with your coach, you will focus together on your life purpose, values, and vision. Where do you want to go and what are you willing to do to get there? We set realistic goals to accomplish what you determine is important to you. We identify your requirements for the life you want to lead.

Singles coaching works to build your confidence first, and then moves forward to build your dating plan. You learn how to meet, screen, sort, and qualify prospective dates. You learn how to become an attractive person, in order to attract the person you want. You discover how not to chase after love, but rather, become the love you seek. When you have a coach, expect improvements in the quality of your life.


Group Coaching is usually done by telephone and permits multiple people to be connected simultaneously to Tonja. It is less expensive than individual coaching and offers the benefit of becoming part of a team. Not only do people gain synergy from working together on similar issues, but they soon become part of a team committed to each other’s success. Singles, in particular, can become isolated, and having teammates provides support that cannot be found among family and friends who do not understand the challenges they face.

Having a team helps group members encourage and mirror each other, hold themselves true to their values, and become clear about their requirements. The coaching team helps group members implement their life plan and overcome barriers that stand in the way.

For singles who live in the same area, the group can provide support for members outside the phone meeting as well. If you’re ready to date, teammates can scout for you, double date with you, attend singles events with you, and help screen potential partners.

We go much further if we allow ourselves to be accompanied by others and accept help from them. In our “do it yourself” culture this is often not understood. The group is there to listen without judgment, to celebrate wins, to encourage accountability, and to help plan the next step.  A coaching team can be central to one’s personal success.


If you feel like your life is stuck in a rut, that you continue to get into relationships that are unhealthy or go nowhere, if you are wanting to find your soul mate, or if you are simply tired of sitting home alone, then you need a dating coach.

I offer years of experience and can teach you the secrets of attraction, show you how to find your partner, and help you to build a better and more fulfilling life for yourself.

This is what some of my clients have to say:

Relationships had not been a strong point in my life. At 56 years old, having been divorced after a nearly 20-year marriage, I didn’t know how to date again. My self-esteem had taken a huge plunge after my husband left me for a much younger woman.

After only a few months of coaching with you my life is brighter. I feel as though I can take on anything. I have achieved a more stable life, my financial situation has improved greatly, and I am now dating the most wonderful man I could ever hope to meet. I could not have done any of this alone. Thank you for putting the hope back into my life.
Mary – Georgia

I have bounced from one relationship to another my entire adult life. After two failed marriages and a string of ex-girlfriends I needed some real help. Tonja gave me the skills and insight, setting my life back on track. I know now why my past relationships didn’t work out. More importantly, I know how to make a relationship work. I’m engaged to a wonderful lady, and looking forward to spending the rest of my life with her.
Jason – AZ

I am 47 years old and never been married. My career has always come before anything else in my life, but I always felt like I was missing something… or someone. I needed to curl up with someone other than the cat. After coaching with Tonja, I have re-prioritized my life and am confident that I will find the man of my dreams. My career has taken off in ways I could never have expected, I have a way of looking at my life and those around me. I FEEL happier and it shows. My friends and family have noticed the change in me. Guys are noticing as well.
Lou Anne – SC

I offer several coaching options based on your personal needs. Take the first step and email me today at

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